I remember those beautiful sunny days in September two years ago. I remember them clearly even though I could not make myself enjoy and appreciate them. All I was feeling was that awful pain in my chest, like a huge, heavy metal thing that someone invisible was pressing hard on my chest. The pain that was popping out every day soon after I got up out of a bed and was with me the whole day long until I went to bed and felt asleep. And that cold sweat. The cold sweat that was covering my entire body. That annoying cold sweat that in combination with the chest pain totally blocked me out. I remember those days, the sunny, fresh and beautiful days that I was watching through my closed windows of my room. The days, the weeks, the months.
I suffered from depression before but I never experienced any physical symptoms. I did not know it was anxiety and anxiety with a combination of depression is a knockout for a human being. You just simply feel powerless. You simply do not know what to do. You feel so scared, so paranoid that even going outdoors becomes a challenge for you. And it was weird for me because I thought that since I finally overcame my eating disorders (2013), I would not suffer from depression ever again in my life. And then it hit me, the strongest depression I ever had in my life and anxiety, as an extra ingredient. Boom!
'Would you like to be prescribed with any of antidepressants for the time being?' I heard from a lovely and young psychologist in Newham Talking Therapies. The same question that I already heard four times in my life before turning 23. And I always answered 'yes' because this is how it was - I felt depressed, I took a pill. I felt depressed because of the eating disorders, I took a pill. Feeling depressed?, here's the pill to the rescue. But not this time. I did not want to be on antidepressant again. I refused. I refused because I really wanted to get an answer for me falling into depression again. Why did it happen again? I did not suffer from eating disorder any longer so what is then wrong with me? I needed an explanation for me. I needed to understand and to find a solution for what was happening to me over and over again.
Depression, eating disorders, anxiety and many others behavioural and mental disorders are very, very complex states of human mind and areas of psychology. They are experienced differently by millions of people and they are also treated differently. But what is the common denominator for all of them is THE SELF-ESTEEM.
It is all about your SELF-ESTEEM and ACCEPTING yourself fully.
It is all about your SELF-ESTEEM and LOVING yourself fully.
It is all about your SELF-ESTEEM and APPRECIATING yourself fully.
It is all about your SELF-ESTEEM and RESPECTING yourself fully.
It is all about your SELF-ESTEEM and UNDERSTANDING yourself fully.
It is all about how do you see yourself in your own eyes. What is your opinion about yourself? Are you happy with who you are, how you look and what job title do you have? Does the control of a food make you feel better? Does feeling your bones and skipping meals make you feel better? Does the job title you handle make you feel better? What if you were not be able to control your food or what if you lose your job?
Our self-esteem is the most crucial component of how we live, behave and function in a society. Strong self-esteem helps you to react to any of the 'life threats' reasonably because you know who you really are. You do not have to prove your skills or to seek for social acceptance because you know who you really are. You are not scared of what other people might think about you because you know and accept and like yourself.
A self-love and self-ecceptance gives you an incredibly amazing feeling of happiness that nothing and no-one can ever give you! They ENABLE YOU TO BLOSSOM and I am here to help you to feel this way.
QUICK MOOD FIXES: HAPPINESS
Felling confident and feeling happy is a state of mind. It is excatly the same when we feel sad. Sometimes this negative state occures out of a blue and without any certain reason - we get up one morning and we feel totally unmotivated, weak and with no energy to do anything (yes, yes, one of those 'waking up with your left foot' days - we all did experience them). What is more, the most frustrating is that we do not even know why we feel this way? why we are sad today? why do we not feel confident and enthusiastic as we felt the other day? Why are we switched into this angry mood today?
So the question is: how we can quickly fix ourselves when feeling down, unhappy, miserable - in the other words - totally crappy?
First thing first. To be able to effectively manage our mood we need to understand and be aware of the most important fact about it and how it functions and in the most simple and easiest way to do so is by explaining it in this way:
our mood is the effect of the emotions we experience at the very moment which, in turn, are the effect of state of our mind.
We feel sad because our mind is in a sad, negative state. So to feel happy we need to put our mind into a positive state. We need to feed our mind, our conscious mind with the proper content to make us feel good about ourselves and to make us to say in the end of the day that 'that was in fact a very good day! I am happy!'.
Human mind is the most incredible, misterious and still yet not completely discovered phenomenon we all, in fact, have and we are all, in fact, individually in charge of. Its mastery comes from being complex to read and simple to use at the same time. We do not need to have a degree in neuroscience or to study brain's anatomy to be fully in charge and responsible of our own mind and mood. Just simple, basic tips on how we can manage it effectively will lead us to a happy, satisfied and relaxed life.
Switching your mind into a positive state
The simples is to recall that moments in your life when you felt happy, excited, complimented or when you made someone laugh. The very moment you start thinking about these moments your brain will switch into a positive mood. You thinking about those moments are sending signals to your brain to reset the state of mind with the emotions that were experienced on that past moments. Recalling these positive moments will put you automatically into a better mood. (Tip for quickly recalling your moments: grab your phone and go through your old pictures from the year - just looking at them will increase your serotonin level as brain will respond to positive and nice feelings you experienced on that days where pictures were taken. Pick the one where you felt happy, come back to how did you feel that day and automatically you will feel the same :)
Hi, I'm Kasia :) I am mental wellbeing and mind enthusiast. I am here to help you to appreciate yourself fully and live a happy, satisfying life :) and also I am a crazy big 'Friends' fun ;P